October 11, 2008


The du Toits are quitting blogging. The Mrs laid out her reason why:

I loved blogging, but what was once a labor of love has become (all too frequently) too much like work. The writing part is still interesting to me, but all that goes with it is not fun anymore. Blogs, I think, are similar to a TV series. They have a lifespan and I sense Iíve either outlived mine or will have very soon. If I feel like writing, I can still do that, but wonít share it with strangers.

What I want, strangely, is my privacy back. I want to be anonymousÖ to be in a place where no one knows my name, or gives two hoots about anything I might say or write about, and anyone who ever read me forgets that I existed. I want no influence on anyone or anything, except what Iím making for dinner, for my family, or what flowers I want to plant in the Spring. That might seem like a strange thing to say for someone who has blogged about their personal life. I havenít, however, blogged about all of itÖ

And I envy them and their commitment to shrug.

I want to try it out. Not permanently, but for about a week. It's my birthday present to myself.

I forgot to tell you guys that I got a job that I start this week. And then I head to SpouseBUZZ Live San Antonio. I will come back to the blog after that, just in time to let you know whether I am pregnant or not. And to tell you about my trip to pay respects to Bunker.

But I need to see what it feels like not to do this anymore. What it feels like to not constantly compose in my head. To not feel guilty about offending someone. To not worry that I've given too much of myself away. To not desire your approval.

(Now I just hope nothing really exciting happens in the debate this week.)

Posted by Sarah at October 11, 2008 08:19 AM | TrackBack

Congrats on the new job! Happy Birthday and enjoy your week off. Have fun in San Antonio, wish I could be there. Give Sissy a HUGE hug for me.


Posted by: LAW at October 11, 2008 09:38 AM

Congrats on the job. Happy Birthday! Enjoy SA and be safe.

Posted by: Susan at October 11, 2008 09:57 AM

Happy birthday sweetie! The Mrs. will see you next weekend.

Enjoy your hiatus, but please, don't worry about offending someone--I've done it lots of times, and it always turns out the same. I tell them if they are offended, it's their problem, not mine.

And you'll always have my approval, that should be enough for anyone.


Posted by: Chuck Z at October 11, 2008 11:52 AM

Happy HAPPY birthday!

Enjoy your week off - get some rest! And have some Tex Mex for me in San Antonio, I'm really going to miss you!

Posted by: airforcewife at October 11, 2008 12:25 PM

Happy Birthday! Have a great week. Enjoy San Antonio!

Posted by: Butterfly Wife at October 11, 2008 01:04 PM

Happiest of birthdays!!! Enjoy your time off - you definitely deserve it!

Posted by: HomefrontSix at October 11, 2008 01:20 PM

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SARAH!!! My wish for you is that all your dreams come true!!

I hope your hiatus doesn't mean you won't come by and say hi on occasion! Best wishes for the happiest of life for you and yours. mwahs from this mom.

Posted by: Some Soldier's Mom at October 11, 2008 01:27 PM

Happy b-day, friend!!!!

We need to catch up soon...need to get the girl talks in that we'll miss b/c I can't come to San Antonio.

Posted by: Guard Wife at October 11, 2008 02:27 PM

Happy Birthday! We'll have to celebrate some in San Antonio!

Posted by: GBear at October 11, 2008 05:57 PM

Happy Birthday!!
See you in SA and just because your not blogging don't fill up that time with worrying and stressing! Hopefully your new job helps out with that!

Posted by: wifeunit at October 11, 2008 07:24 PM

Happy birthday! Have a great time and hope you enjoy your job.

Posted by: Anwyn at October 11, 2008 08:05 PM

I wish you a very happy birthday, a good blogging hiatus and lots of baby luck. I can't think of anyone who I would be happier for to be pregnant!

Posted by: dutchgirl at October 11, 2008 08:52 PM

Happy Birthday, and Congratulations on your new job!
I'll miss you this week!

Posted by: Susan at October 11, 2008 08:52 PM

Happy Birthday!!! Have a wonderful reprieve from the blogging grind - and congrats on the new job! Enjoy! :-)

Posted by: kannie at October 12, 2008 01:11 AM

Happy Birthday, Sarah. I understand the need for a rest.

And I, like many others I'm sure, hope you get the present you really want this year.

Posted by: Non-Essential Equipment at October 12, 2008 01:33 AM

Happy Birthday Sarah.

Breaks are a good thing, some times the reason you started blogging in the first place brings you back. Crossing my fingers.

And for your Birthday...wishing your bigger wish comes true.

Posted by: Mrs G at October 12, 2008 08:09 AM

Happy Birthday! And don't think your hiatus means you can't jump in on Chuck's liveblog of the debate.

And you will be missed even if it's just for a short while.

Posted by: Code Monkey at October 12, 2008 09:18 PM