June 12, 2008


Well, shit.
This baby died too.

Posted by Sarah at June 12, 2008 03:10 PM | TrackBack

I'm truly sorry to hear that Sarah.

Posted by: tim at June 12, 2008 03:21 PM

Oh, Sarah. I'm so sorry to hear this. My heart aches for you. I cannot imagine how you are feeling. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband.

Posted by: Sandi at June 12, 2008 03:35 PM

I was checking back hoping for happier news. I am so sorry to hear this. Wishing you strength as you deal with this and hope for your dreams of holding your child to come true without more loss.

Posted by: wifeunit at June 12, 2008 03:37 PM

I'm so sorry. No words for it really- just achingly sorry.

Posted by: Crys at June 12, 2008 03:40 PM

Oh, no. I'm so sorry, Sarah. :(

Posted by: JT at June 12, 2008 04:27 PM

You are in my thoughts and prayers, Sarah. I'm so sorry to hear this.

Posted by: Vypergirl at June 12, 2008 04:33 PM

I am so sorry to hear this - you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Posted by: Toni at June 12, 2008 04:49 PM


Is there anyone who can make the drive to the airport with you?

Insert more profanities here.

Posted by: Sis B at June 12, 2008 04:53 PM

Don't worry, Sis B, my mom cancelled her ticket for tonight and is staying a few more days with me.

Posted by: Sarah at June 12, 2008 04:58 PM

Oh, no! I'm glad your mom decided to stay with you a few more days. I'm so sorry; I wish there were more I could say. *big hugs*

Posted by: Emily at June 12, 2008 05:08 PM

I'm so very sorry, Sarah.

Posted by: Anwyn at June 12, 2008 05:51 PM

I am so sorry. Its heartbreaking.

Posted by: kati at June 12, 2008 06:15 PM

I am so sorry Sarah.

Posted by: Reasa at June 12, 2008 06:17 PM

I'm so glad your mom is with you. And I am heartbroken for you. Will it do any good for me to tell you my sister in law lost three before one live birth? No, it won't. But I'm telling you, as long as you can get pregnant there is hope you will have a baby one day. My prayers and hopes are with you and your hubby, and thankful your mom is there.

Posted by: Ruth H at June 12, 2008 06:19 PM

I am so sorry to hear the news. Glad to hear your mom is staying with you for a few days longer.

Posted by: Cindy at June 12, 2008 06:22 PM

I am so sorry for your loss.

Posted by: Maria at June 12, 2008 06:30 PM

I am so so sorry.

Posted by: MaryIndiana at June 12, 2008 06:43 PM

It's just not fair. I'm so sorry.

Posted by: Val at June 12, 2008 06:43 PM

it sucks, it's not fair, you will make it through. did not make sense for me until it actually happened. thoughts are with you, sarah.

Posted by: kristie at June 12, 2008 07:21 PM

I am so sorry for you and your husband.
Thankfully, your mom is there with you and can bring you some comfort.
I am so, so sorry.

Posted by: Susan at June 12, 2008 08:11 PM

I am very sorry and very sad. I am relieved to hear that your mother was able to stay a little longer to be with you during this time.

Posted by: CaliValleyGirl at June 12, 2008 08:36 PM

Oh no...how rotten...

Posted by: Kiki at June 12, 2008 09:24 PM

I am sorry too.

Posted by: dutchgirl at June 12, 2008 09:38 PM

So sorry Sarah.

Posted by: Nicole at June 12, 2008 09:41 PM

I'm so sorry and my heart breaks for you.

Posted by: Susan at June 12, 2008 09:57 PM

I'm so very very sorry. I was so hoping this would not happen.

Posted by: sharona at June 12, 2008 10:18 PM

So sorry. I've been there, too, during a deployment. Bless your mom for staying.

Posted by: Amanda at June 13, 2008 12:11 AM

Sarah, when I read your news, I cried. I cried for you and for your babies. I cried for the fact that you will never get to hold those two babies. I cried because my heart remembered the horrible, ripping pain that came when reality set in and I realized that my babies were gone. I cried because you will now have yet another two days that come and go and are difficult in your life. I cried because I understand.

When the anniversary of my first miscarriage came this April, I was heartbroken. The anniversary of the second is just this week, and it scares me. Even though I am pregnant and slowly, cautiously dealing with this one, I grieve over the two that I lost. I hate it when people say that there will be more babies...what about the two that you lost? I hate it when people tell you how they know so and so who had this many miscarriages and had a baby later, because that doesn't help you RIGHT NOW. You do not have a baby in your arms, you do not have any guarantee that it will ever happen for you. No, it doesn't make you feel better to hear all of those things from those "well-meaning" people.

Please know that I am NOT one of those people. I am one of the people that understands where you are coming from. I have been there, and I know how it hurts, and how little things don't mean anything. I remember after my first loss, and I called a friend to tell her and all she did was cry on the phone with me, completely sobbed, for about ten minutes. Out of all of the words that I received, out of all of the so-called "advice" that was given to me, that phone call is the one that I remember, it is the one that stands out in my mind. She just cried with me. She felt my pain with me.

I've never met you, but I'm crying with you. I'm feeling your pain with you. My heart is actually breaking with you.

Posted by: Stacy at June 13, 2008 12:46 AM

I'm sorry. (The first words that come to mind were a bit more profane)

Words of encouragement:
My in-laws were married at 19 and 18. She gave birth to my wife at 29 and they were "trying" for all but 2 years (1 in Vietnam and 1 where they were taking precautions). After that he got snipped so my wife is an only child. Please don't give up hope. (Or force your husband to get snipped after only 1. :) )

Posted by: Brian at June 13, 2008 01:28 AM

I am so very sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Posted by: Lee Anne at June 13, 2008 08:31 AM

I'm so sorry. Prayers for peace and healing going up for you.

Posted by: MargeinMI at June 13, 2008 09:03 AM

I'm so sorry. I'm glad you're mother is there. I'll be praying for you.

Posted by: Tibby at June 13, 2008 09:31 AM

No words. I'm so very, very sorry Sarah.

Posted by: Stephanie at June 13, 2008 11:12 AM

*Sigh* No words can possibly express how sorry I am for you.

Posted by: David M at June 13, 2008 11:13 AM

Sarah - I am sorry. I wish there was something to say or do to take away your pain, but if its any comfort, I am thinking of you, your baby & your husband.


Posted by: Keri at June 13, 2008 11:15 AM

Oh, Sarah. My heart aches for you.

Posted by: FbL at June 13, 2008 11:28 AM

I had the same thing happen. And I haven't won the lottery, either!

You know that I am thinking about you and crying for you, too.

I'm so sorry.

Posted by: Allison at June 13, 2008 01:05 PM


I am so terribly sorry for your loss. My sympathies to you and your husband.

I think you are smart enough to already know what I am about to tell you....but I'll say it anyway. Take time to grieve this. A lot of very well-meaning people who love you will step up and try to distract you. I know that because if I were with you right now I would grab you and take you to lunch and out for manicures and pedicures and tell you ridiculous Princess Crabby stories until your sides hurt - trust me, I do enough asshatted things to fill a book.

That's because when we see your pain we want to help. And that's good and your friends and family are wonderful. They are right that it's not good to wallow.

But on the other hand, it's not good to ignore it. It hurts and like any other pain, it's not wise to ignore it. It will never be gone. Time will dull it. But it will never be gone. I lost my first pregnancy in February of 1980. My sons are wonderful, but they are not replacements. Their names are not his name.

You can do this. Anyone who reads your blog knows what a strong intelligent woman you are. They also know that you are not alone. You have a wonderful husband and family and all of us - your imaginary friends out here in the blogosphere. We are here with you too. We are grieving with you, just as we will rejoice when the good times come.


Posted by: Maggie at June 13, 2008 01:47 PM

You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Posted by: Vonn at June 13, 2008 11:33 PM

I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say. Is there anything I can do?

Posted by: Deskmerc at June 14, 2008 12:06 AM

I'm saddened for your loss. I'm not sure what else I can say that will make your pain recede.

Posted by: Patrick Chester at June 14, 2008 01:37 AM

damn. I'm so sorry. nothing any of us will say is going to help, but know that we are here and send you love and hope.


Posted by: LAW at June 14, 2008 07:05 AM

I am so sorry. No words. If we could help take away or ease the pain we would.

Posted by: Navy Wife Wendy at June 20, 2008 09:55 PM