May 07, 2008


A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning

As virtuous men pass mildly away,
  And whisper to their souls to go,
Whilst some of their sad friends do say
  The breath goes now, and some say, No:

So let us melt, and make no noise,
  No tear-floods, nor sigh-tempests move,
'Twere profanation of our joys
  To tell the laity our love.

Moving of th' earth brings harms and fears,
  Men reckon what it did and meant,
But trepidation of the spheres,
  Though greater far, is innocent.

Dull sublunary lovers' love
  (Whose soul is sense) cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
  Those things which elemented it.

But we by a love so much refined
  That our selves know not what it is,
Inter-assur'd of the mind,
  Care less, eyes, lips, and hands to miss.

Our two souls therefore, which are one,
  Though I must go, endure not yet
A breach, but an expansion,
  Like gold to aery thinness beat.

If they be two, they are two so
  As stiff twin compasses are two;
Thy soul, the fixed foot, makes no show
  To move, but doth, if th' other do.

And though it in the centre sit,
  Yet when the other far doth roam,
It leans and hearkens after it,
  And grows erect, as that comes home.

Such wilt thou be to me, who must
  Like th' other foot, obliquely run;
Thy firmness makes my circle just,
  And makes me end where I begun.

   -- John Donne

Posted by Sarah at May 7, 2008 02:17 AM | TrackBack

Big, big hugs.

Posted by: Butterfly Wife at May 7, 2008 06:43 AM

I don't know what to say, but John Donne says it all.

Posted by: Ruth H at May 7, 2008 09:15 AM

More big hugs from this corner.

Posted by: FbL at May 7, 2008 09:33 AM

Sarah - This gives me chills. Though I know know you personally, I've been thinking of you often. Take Care, Keri

Posted by: Keri at May 7, 2008 10:01 AM

Big hugs...and now the countdown has begun...

Posted by: CaliValleyGirl at May 7, 2008 10:06 AM

Thinking of you...

Posted by: Mare at May 7, 2008 04:03 PM


I can only imagine what you are feeling and the emotions you have. I would just like to tell you that this American and I know I speak for many others, is so very thankful for your husband’s service and your sacrifice.

Please know that you both are appreciated and mere words cannot express our gratitude.

Also, if possible, please keep us updated as frequently as possible. In that-odd, internet, strangers who kind’a, sort’a know each other but really don’t-way I feel I “know” your husband. At the least in a small way, though enough to want to hear how he (and you) is doing. (Did that make any sense?)

Anyways, carry on & thank you.

Posted by: tim at May 7, 2008 04:45 PM