Oh look, another chance to rave about my husband!
I already wrote about how my husband and I ended up together:
When I realized that my friendship with my husband was turning into something more than friendship, I knew I didn't want to make the same mistake twice. So I flat out told him one night, told him that I really liked him and that I was starting to think about him all the time, and asked him how he felt. He was quite taken aback, and that's when he gave his famous "well, I like you, but I'm not going to marry you or anything" line. He wasn't quite sure what to think, but he slept on it (for two weeks!) and finally told me that he wanted to be with me too.
Dr. Melissa Clouthier did a follow-up post and wrote about dating rules for men. One of the things that so impressed me about my husband was that, while he was taking his time deciding whether he wanted us to be together, he never abused his position in the relationship. He could've used the info to try to get me to go home with him, or strung me along, or whatever. But he was a perfect gentleman. Just perfect.
And I complimented his mother on his behavior later on.
I really liked this part of Melissa's post:
Another aside: I think men are more romantic than women, not less. A man will fall in love and be in love and stay in love with a woman and he just knows. It's often very cut and dried for him. Women are often more needing of proof and evidence. Now, I realize this is a generalization, but I believe it to be true.
My husband is very cut and dried. He just fell in love with me and never stopped, and never considered not being in love with me. It's so simple and so wonderful. Granted, sometimes he could work on his delivery: for example, we are attending a military ball tonight, and when I tried on my new dress to show him the other day, he barely looked up from playing with the dog. He takes it for granted that I know he thinks I'm pretty, which is actually quite cute. He also thinks the height of romance is funding my IRA. He says things like, "See how much I love you; I put money in an account that I would never be able to touch if you divorced me." That's true love for my husband.
And I've been meaning to tell this story for a while now. We were watching highlights of a slam-dunk contest on ESPN a few weeks back, and I asked my husband if he can dunk. He got the cutest look on his face and said, "No, absolutely not, but I think it is such a compliment that you even remotely thought I might be able to."
One of my cherished readers reminded me in an email that, despite the fact that we have encountered roadblocks trying to get pregnant, I have many things to be thankful for. She said that many people would give anything to have the marriage I have, let alone kids. And she's right. Since then, I tell my husband often that I'd rather have zero babies with him than five babies with anyone else.
I am lucky and happy, and I know it.
Posted by Sarah at March 20, 2008 12:59 PM | TrackBackYou ARE sooooo lucky to have him. But know what? He's lucky to have you, too. And the fact that you both know it and cherish it makes your marriage so wonderful.
I about died laughing at the IRA thing.:) I know AFG loves me because he'll put on my Neil Diamond cd in the car or when we're home together (he's more the Metallica type). Without prompting!
Little things like that are so much better than diamonds.
Posted by: airforcewife at March 20, 2008 01:31 PM"I think men are more romantic than women, not less. A man will fall in love and be in love and stay in love with a woman and he just knows. It's often very cut and dried for him. Women are often more needing of proof and evidence. Now, I realize this is a generalization, but I believe it to be true."
Nail. Hammer. Bang!!!
Now, falling in love with the right girl. Yea, that's the tricky part.
Posted by: tim at March 20, 2008 02:40 PMBrava, Sarah! Well-told. (I especially liked the slam-dunk story. . . . )
Posted by: prophet at March 20, 2008 02:55 PMProphet -- My husband is 6'2", which seems sooo much taller than me, so it seemed plausible. He thought that was hilarious.
Posted by: Sarah at March 20, 2008 03:04 PMMy husband had me picked out in third grade. I didn't know this until our sophomore year in college, when the truth finally came to light and I realized I loved him, too.
Still blows my mind that he could be that devoted for so long (he calls it proof that stalking really does work out in the end), while I remained so adrift and clueless. I sure am glad, though. :)
Posted by: deltasierra at March 20, 2008 07:30 PMI hadn't thought of it like that--men being more romantic than women. But my husband was very set on me, too, long before I was able to make up my mind. He was always very up front about what he wanted (like announcing he wouldn't continue dating me if I didn't want kids on our second date).
The dunk conversation was really cute!
Posted by: Ann M. at March 21, 2008 11:51 AMMy husband isn't a traditional romantic, but he tells me every day, "You are my favorite person and I love you."
It's nice being the favorite.
And, just an aside, it sucks having kids with a man you're not in love with or who doesn't love you. I should know. My two oldest with my ex, as much as I hate to say it, will have a hugely different life than my smaller ones with my 'favorite' husband....
Posted by: Allison at March 22, 2008 12:45 AMAw, that last line is great. I hope he reads or at least knows about your posts about him, because I love reading about how much in love you both are :)
Posted by: Kate at March 22, 2008 05:27 PMI've had a busy few days and got behind on my reading... just now saw this post.
*loosens collar to ease lump in throat*
Posted by: FbL at March 22, 2008 05:32 PMOf course, it's always true...!!! there are no need in comments.
Posted by: James at April 4, 2008 08:38 AMI think there’s nothing wrong with people, who say whatever they want. It’s just there way of communication, I think
Posted by: Lesly at April 6, 2008 12:02 PMThis whole situation is SO absurd. Your post strikes as serious for you only. What can we do but make jokes about it?
Posted by: Casey Fulton at April 9, 2008 05:54 AM