January 19, 2005


It's cruel and unusual to ask a woman whose husband has been gone for over eleven months to describe who is hot. At this point, everyone is. The joke among my friends is that while our guys were in Kosovo, one wife thought the German fix-it guy was attractive, prompting Oda Mae to let out a loud guffaw. Our radars get all goofed up after this long. When you start to think the German rent-a-cops who check our IDs at the gate look good, it's time for the end of the deployment.

So you'll forgive us wives if we squeal a little too much when someone suggests watching Tombstone. Or when we get together to watch American Dreams just for the young man in Vietnam. Or when our hearts stop at the name Sam Elliot. Every movie star looks handsome when your husband is gone. (And sometimes the SSG at the MP station does too.)

John Hawkins is right that something in our psyche can trigger attraction. I could look at Barry Pepper all day long because he reminds me of my 8th grade boyfriend who died in a car accident. My father looks like Christopher Reeve, my brother looks like Robert Redford, thus those two actors have always held a special place in my heart. I always tease Red 6 that he looks like Yul Brynner, which is very lucky for him. My husband doesn't look like an actor, though he does bear an uncanny resemblance to He-Man.

So what makes a man attractive? Allah was partly right that women work "within a framework", though my framework doesn't include height or hair color: dress any man as a cowboy and he doubles in hotness; dress him as a soldier and it triples. (See here: good, better, best) I'm not a sucker for a uniform -- the UPS guy doesn't do it for me -- but I am a complete sucker for cowboys and soldiers.

Hot. Hot. Hot. Hot. Hot. Hot. Hot. So very hot.

The company commander sent home a CD full of photos, including one that stopped my breath: my husband, with his pistol on his thigh and a cigar in his lips, squinting into the sun on a blistering, dirty day in July. Now that's hot.

(this post prompted by RightWingNews, on the debate between Michelle and Allah over Teri Polo's Playboy spread)

Posted by Sarah at January 19, 2005 10:25 AM

If you're a Sam Elliot fan, you need to see him in "Gettysburg" (if you haven't already)

Posted by: David Foster at January 19, 2005 02:45 PM

Oooh, no, I haven't. Thanks for the tip!

Posted by: Sarah at January 19, 2005 03:07 PM

Sarah, I've always thought your husband looked like Rick Schroeder, from NYPD Blue, both as a child and as an adult. I've told him this, but he doesn't see it. Don

Posted by: Don Walter at January 19, 2005 03:28 PM

Sam Elliot was born 100 years too late. The man belongs in the wild west.

Posted by: mdmhvonpa at January 19, 2005 04:08 PM

Yeah, I see that! Rick Schroeder is a pretty decent comparison. The husband's cuter though. I have his photo as my desktop at home, and I swear he gets better looking with every passing week. I wonder how I managed to marry the handsomest guy on the planet.

Posted by: Sarah at January 19, 2005 04:43 PM

Elliot as Sgt Major Basil Plumley in "We Were Soldiers"; Ia Drang, standing by Gibson's Col Moore popping off rounds from his .45 cal pistol.

Every boy in America ought to want to grow up to become Sgt Major Plumley.


Posted by: Jim Shawley at January 19, 2005 06:35 PM

Well, I'm certainly all "hot and bothered" now... ;)

I have to admit I've never really gotten "into" Westerns as an extertainment form, but I've always enjoyed them. And I've always found men with confidence, courage, and a high level of physical/mental skill VERY attractive.

It's interesting to note that the older I get, the sexier I find confidence and well-applied skill/knowledge...I'm sure there's some serious developmental psychology theory that explains that.

Posted by: Beth at January 19, 2005 08:37 PM

When I first saw you linked to Kim DuToit, I thought you meant Kim DuToit was hot

Posted by: Tom at January 19, 2005 08:49 PM

Nothing against Kim -- he does look awful cute pointing that rifle -- but his two snipers are tip top!

Posted by: Sarah at January 19, 2005 09:07 PM

I actually met Elliot in the club/former O'club at Ft Hunter-Liggett (an old tanker training ground) where they filmed, "We Were Soldiers". He's not that tall, lol.

Here's to the second honeymoon. Have a couple bottles of champagne in the fridge, and some brie. It will come in handy.

Posted by: Casca at January 22, 2005 02:08 AM

I LOVE your taste!!! I have a picture of the Marlboro Man 8x10 that I printed out on my refridgerator. The CO and XO's wives were a bit surprised when I told them I had that photo there was because I thought he was hot. I think a polite "Oh." was the response. I also LOVE Tombstone. I went to Tombstone a couple of years ago solely because I saw the movie. I keep trying to get my husband to wear a long black duster and hat, but he doesn't go for it. I mentioned in a previous post my husband is deployed. He has been gone for 11+ months. Right about now, all the Marines on this base are looking pretty damn cute. I think what makes a man "hot" these days could be their sheer masculinity (not to be confused with "macho"), their self confidence, their love and respect for their wives and children, and ok...the uniform does it too.

Posted by: Amy at January 22, 2005 09:22 PM

I am an English Lady trying to find some contact with Sam Elliot,I have written to him at an address I found on the internet before Christmas, and I have also written to an agency also off the internet. We get very few of his movies in the U K. I have received no reply to either of my letters. The reason I wrote to Sam , was, because he is a dead ringer for my yougest son.I don't usally make a habit of writing to celebrities, but I relly enjoy his acting talent. I would love to talk to someone. Pauline

Posted by: pauline coulson at April 3, 2005 05:44 PM

Who ever is out there who might no how I can get a message to Sam Elliot. I worked with him on the TNT Gettysburg Production and have a question on an item I gave him on the set.

Thanks, Fess

Posted by: Fess at June 24, 2005 08:40 AM